Win-Win-Win

Someone told me yesterday about zero sum games.

“The zero-sum property (if one gains, another loses) means that any result of a zero-sum situation is Pareto optimal (generally, any game where all strategies are Pareto optimal is called a conflict game).  (Wikipedia)

Boy am I naive.  I guess that is what I was talking about winners and losers.  I didn’t even know anyone believed in zero sum games.  Maybe the big wheels at AIG did, but they found out, didn’t they, that it does not work in a human culture, because what comes around goes around.  Most of those old sayings ring true.  If it sounds too good to be true it is.  Winners and losers simply doesn’t work.  Too many losers.

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The best things that I have ever enjoyed were not even win-win games.  They were win-win-win games.  If you can organize a win-win-win game you have something really to be proud of, but that’s not the reason to do it.  The real reason is it’s the best fun you will ever have. (This is not me in the picture — if only.)

But the very first step in finding win-win games is to stop playing winners and losers.